Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!

Recent Episodes
  • Chubby Chasers (w/ Jana Schmieding)
    Mar 28, 2025 – 01:04:08
  • Oops, All Red Flags! (w/ Mariah Smith)
    Mar 21, 2025 – 00:58:09
  • Surviving Beergate & Escaping Trans-Chasers (w/ Dylan Mulvaney)
    Mar 14, 2025 – 00:59:15
  • Coming Out (w/ Sasheer Zamata)
    Mar 7, 2025 – 00:57:44
  • How to Pull Rich Men (w/ Robby Hoffman)
    Feb 28, 2025 – 00:54:21
  • Proposing is So Weird! (w/ Mo Welch)
    Feb 21, 2025 – 00:59:41
  • How Your Attachment Style Predicts Your Dating Disasters (w/ Dating Coach Sabrina Zohar)
    Feb 14, 2025 – 01:04:39
  • THE LOST EPISODE (w/ Bobby Moynihan)
    Feb 7, 2025 – 01:08:35
  • Dating as a Child Star, Proposing Naked (w/ Josh Peck)
    Jan 31, 2025 – 00:50:02
  • Mud Butt Mishaps (w/ Siobhan Thompson)
    Jan 24, 2025 – 01:01:38
  • Matching Your Silly (w/ Eugene Cordero)
    Jan 17, 2025 – 01:00:21
  • Left by my Fiancé, Relationship OCDs (w/ Allison Raskin)
    Jan 10, 2025 – 00:59:12
  • A Naked Proposal (w/ Jimmy Kimmel)
    Jan 3, 2025 – 01:08:16
  • Loving Your Pregnancy (w/ Lennon Parham)
    Dec 27, 2024 – 00:45:18
  • Ho Ho Ho, Sonic is Here! A Sonic The Hedgehog Holiday Special (w/ Ben Schwartz)
    Dec 20, 2024 – 01:22:34
  • How to Cover Up Stinky Shits From Your Partner (w/ Randall Park)
    Dec 13, 2024 – 00:57:11
  • Saying 'I Love You' Too Soon (w/ Sam Sanders)
    Dec 6, 2024 – 01:08:21
  • Cheesy Anniversaries (w/ Alex Moffat)
    Nov 29, 2024 – 00:45:12
  • NickKroll Byer (w/ Nick Kroll)
    Nov 22, 2024 – 01:08:05
  • Validate Bisexuality (w/ Sherry Cola)
    Nov 15, 2024 – 00:54:46
  • We Met Playing Call of Duty (w/ Sarah Silverman)
    Nov 8, 2024 – 00:58:39
  • Men Who Lie About Their Height (w/ Lauren Lapkus)
    Nov 1, 2024 – 00:56:26
  • BEST OF: How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)
    Oct 25, 2024 – 00:45:21
  • BEST OF: Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)
    Oct 18, 2024 – 00:58:35
  • BEST OF: Top or Bottom? (w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)
    Oct 11, 2024 – 01:25:51
  • BEST OF: Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)
    Oct 4, 2024 – 01:04:03
  • BEST OF: Same Guy Club (w/ Skyler Hurt)
    Sep 27, 2024 – 01:05:29
  • BEST OF: Getting Paid for Sex (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)
    Sep 20, 2024 – 01:03:39
  • BEST OF: Booty Call Horror Story (w/ Jameela Jamil)
    Sep 13, 2024 – 01:00:39
  • A lil update from Nicole
    Sep 12, 2024 – 00:00:36
  • Dating Michael Jordan, Larry David, and a $6K Dating App Fail (w/ Garcelle Beauvais)
    Sep 6, 2024 – 00:55:49
  • Dating Scraps (w/ Riki Lindhome)
    Aug 30, 2024 – 00:54:24
  • Orgasmic Meditation (w/ Chloe Fineman)
    Aug 23, 2024 – 00:54:16
  • When Your Dad’s a Movie Icon (w/ Sophia Stallone)
    Aug 16, 2024 – 01:01:25
  • Sex Goals (w/ Akeem Woods)
    Aug 9, 2024 – 00:55:13
  • Don't Break Up Like This! (w/ Ryan Beck)
    Aug 2, 2024 – 00:57:36
  • Modelling on OnlyFans (w/ Luenell)
    Jul 26, 2024 – 00:59:00
  • Forget About the Dating "Icks" (w/ Boman Martinez-Reid)
    Jul 19, 2024 – 00:58:48
  • Background Check Your Dates (w/ Lala Kent)
    Jul 12, 2024 – 01:02:43
  • Dating a Cult Leader (w/ Poppy Liu)
    Jul 5, 2024 – 00:47:37
  • Dominant Women (w/ Clark Jones)
    Jun 28, 2024 – 01:00:34
  • Your Relationship Needs a Song (w/ Keith Robinson)
    Jun 21, 2024 – 00:42:38
  • Anxiety (w/ Tony Hale)
    Jun 14, 2024 – 00:55:16
  • You Smell Like Me (w/ David Gborie)
    Jun 7, 2024 – 01:03:25
  • The 90 Day Fiancé Interview (w/ Alex Roshon)
    May 31, 2024 – 00:44:01
  • Interview with a MILF from MILF Manor (w/ Crystal)
    May 24, 2024 – 00:51:27
  • The Hookup Queen (w/ Mistress Isabelle Brooks)
    May 17, 2024 – 00:58:57
  • Love in Theater (w/ Jesse Tyler Ferguson)
    May 10, 2024 – 00:55:01
  • Forever Single Friends (w/ Jessica Gao)
    May 3, 2024 – 00:55:27
  • Catfished! (w/ Kamie Crawford)
    Apr 26, 2024 – 00:54:15
Recent Reviews
  • Mlekonaukowe
    Natural charisma, a delight
    Nicole is so good at asking questions I would’t dare to ask. I always enjoy the conversations on this show immensely.
  • MrsMecca
    LOL
    I don’t LOL literally often especially these days but I do every.single.time I listen or watch this podcast. Even if I don’t know the guest, I’ll listen because Nicole gives me the shot of serotonin I need daily. I first found Nicole when my daughter was obsessed with watching Nailed It and I thought she was hysterical so when I found this podcast I knew I had to give it a shot and I am absolutely so glad I did! Keep it up!!!
  • we need someone on maracas
    Verbs that make you go hmmm
    Cross between talk and laugh, think and blink, love and pass out, it’s a podcast for the movers, sitters, and livers (yes the bile producers). It’s all very digestible.
  • Emily Chitown
    Pure Joy
    One of the only podcasts that makes me laugh out loud
  • Zeegogo2
    Love it !!!!
    Been a listener since 2019 and I love it more every Friday lol. I look forward to listening to this every time !
  • Debbiedubya
    We are in fact having a nice time
    I’ve been listening with love for awhile but the Lost episode was a masterpiece. Nicole is always so authentic, loving, smart and silly.
  • DoodleNSquirt
    Josh Peck Interview is Everything!
    Been listening for some time, best pod out there. This last episode with Josh Peck was the best media I’ve consumed in a long time! Constant laughs!
  • marbar345
    Love it
    The most recent episode with Josh Peck was so funny!
  • Mallovely
    Nicole is so delightful
    And she makes me tee hee hee!
  • 💜It’sAlannah💜
    You’re always the best
    You’re always the best ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
  • _miel_
    Had to Unfollow
    I’ve followed this show for years and used to enjoy it but it’s hard to relate to now in many ways… would appreciate more class conscious material (something outside the fairly wealthy Hollywood elite community) and also missing Arab comedians/ perspectives, backgrounds…
  • LydiaFaithfull
    The best!
    Longtime friend in my head and a continued pleasure to hear. Nicole has a natural ability to meet people where they are and match energies without compromising her principles. And make no mistake, despite her self deprecation, she is a woman with deep convictions. But she knows better than to confront you with them directly. Instead, she’ll sneak them into a spoonful of peanut butter like a dog’s medicine. Eat up, dummies.
  • Woofiesaurous
    Nicole and Ben Schwartz are magic
    Long time listener and fan. I could not stop laughing during the “Sonic is here!” podcast. You’re both delightful, positive people and the energy you have together is contagious.
  • $limmtimm
    HILARIOUS!
    I found this podcast through one of my favorite radio hosts, Sam Sanders, and I haven’t laughed this hard in a while at their chat. This is the longform interview podcast that I didn’t know I needed, and it’s a much appreciated break from the intensity and seriousness of the past few years.
  • Just the exiled parts
    Best Pod find
    Nicole Byer and Sam Samuels are a match made in quick wit heaven! Loved finding this podcast and am about to binge all the previous episodes!
  • Grey Lux
    🤷‍♂️
    Was a fan until the SS ep. Sorry, you are who you hang with ☮️✌️🇵🇸
  • Tamarab1980
    Grateful Fan
    Nicole is a brilliant beautiful soul. This podcast will brighten your day and leave you wishing a million good karma wishes to Nicole. I cannot listen to a single episode without laughing and smiling and feeling uplifted.
  • Slowdive79
    Love you.
    I didn’t realize I took a break from this podcast. It’s still incredibly funny and silly and amazing
  • james willflower
    No more straight white guys
    I love you so much Nicole but please no more straight white guys, they’re so boring
  • Grushenka P
    Nickroll Buyer
    You, alone, are absolutely hilarious. You and Nick Kroll together…I’m crying. Love you Nicole, you make my week!
  • EcoTeach
    Nicole is the best
    Nicole is such a delight and her show brings me lots of laughs.
  • aclovexxx
    No genocide supporters - why was Sarah Silverman a guest?
    I love Nicole and I love this podcast but have to criticize the recent episode with Sarah Silverman as a guest. There is a full-on 21st century holocaust happening in Gaza that our government has funded heavily since October of 2023 and Sarah Silverman is cool with it. So if you’re a person of conscience and morals, you’re not cool with Sarah. That being said, I don’t know who picks the guests or what Nicole would have to say about this, but it’s incredibly disparaging that one of my favorite pods allowed Sarah this platform.
  • Janayasahotmess
    Sarah Silverman was a Wild choice
    Having a proud g-cide supporter on the show was a terrible choice. I generally love Nicole and this show. I’ve paid to see her live; she’s a real treat of a human and performer, and I’m really scratching my head at this one.
  • Meacatcosplay
    Pro Zionist
    Recently had a Zionist as a guest, Nicole clearly doesn’t care about Palestine
  • dccgg454
    Really, Sarah Silverman??
    Love this podcast, but why would you have someone on who’s done blackface (and generally built her career being racist), especially right now? Hugeee yikes 🙃
  • seantighe
    Long time listener
    One of my faves - every so funny
  • nicolebyerwastaken
    I Love Nicole!
    Nicole Byer is SO GREAT AT PODCASTING (among other things)! She always makes me laugh and puts me in a good mood. I listen to all of her podcasts and can’t get enough! Also she is so funny on Nailed It on Netflix, check it out if you haven’t already! So happy that Why Won’t You Date Me is back on headgum and now available on YouTube!
  • DougFoPug
    So Fun, Easy Listening & now on YouTube
    I really can’t get enough Nicole Byer. She’s fun, has fun being funny, & is willing to laugh at herself & everyone else. Every moment with Nicole on Nailed It on Netflix, her specials or this Podcast (which we can now watch on YouTube!) is ab fab self-care. Love ya Nicole!
  • KAnn91
    Nicole- you know why you’re single.
    Nicole is so funny, weird (in a good way) and interesting to listen to! But maybe it’s time to put this to bed. Keep podcasting, but also consider the ending the “I have no idea why I’m single!” narrative. At this point it’s your toxic friend who has been given loads of therapy, advice from loved ones, and grace, yet refuses to acknowledge any of it. Stop asking and just accept you don’t want to be in a relationship, or you don’t have the tools to attract something healthy, ya know? Idk, I really think Nicole could get an amazing man (or woman), but it sounds like she has and chooses to sabotage instead. It’s a bit tired at this point.
  • Brooke LOVE😉🫶🏻
    2
    Ok first Nicole your great and I’m only doing to star because of the pod act like instead of making everything about you how about you not be selfish
  • Deestiltz
    Pure Perfection
    This podcast is everything a dating podcast should want to be! I love how it’s honest, heartfelt, and sometimes just an ad to a comedian/celebrity boo’d up—werk your magic Nicole!
  • Prozizzle
    Very funny and sweet
    Rewriting my review. At first I liked the show but it always seemed the same. I have returned to listen and the episodes recently have been a blast!
  • annoyedaf1234567
    Please No More Babble
    That’s all.
  • Jsgskstdgtvsjsvsjshs
    PLEASE more BABBLE
    I can take it anymore. Give me more of that sweet sweet BA-BB-EL because yo soy hamburgurso mucho! Tell me how those rules and restriction apply, bae!
  • BettyButts
    Please no more BABBLE!
    I can’t take it anymore
  • Annnnnnnnaaaaa
    One of the best
    Absolutely love this show. How Nicole is able to have this much chemistry with every guest should be studied by science because I could use some of it. Long time listener but the latest episode with Akeem Woods had me running over to publicly sing the pods praises.
  • Hmptngirl
    Love, love, love
    I wish we could rate other’s reviews. Why in the world would anyone come to this podcast of this title and think they would or want to hear about genocides? They must be a Newcomer (add’l plug) bc Nicole made a concerted effort in most of 2020 to only feature POC. ANYWAY, this is where I and many others come to escape the news and just have an hour of levity in this hellish world. Keep doing you, Nicole and team! You da best!!
  • LMKbruh
    Ned better guests for the 👸🏽!
    I love Nicole and think she’s sooo talented but her booker needs to step up their game. The recent guests have been awful… and even fast forwarding or skipping only gets u so far. 1 huge tip- VERY few tiktokers are entertaining guests. They’re usually popular on tik tok because of their recorded/written skits NOT live. Nicole deserves better than z-list.
  • Autopay Wow
    So fun
    This show is so funny!!! Nicole Byer keeps me in stitches!!
  • Luyonce
    Love Nicole BUT…
    I love Nicole, she is one of my favorite comedians and I watch/listen to anything she’s in religiously. BUT ever since the podcast joined Team Coco, I feel like the quality of the guests has really taken a nose dive. She’s recently been talking to some real boring people and it’s a snooze-pocalypse. Now and then Nicole comes alive when she gets to talk to interesting people (a lot of the time these are queer, PoC and non boring str8s guests), but that seems to be few and far between now. I’ll continue listening, but if the quality of the guests doesn’t improve, I might skip more and more episodes. Love you Nicole, but your producers need to put in as much works as you put in!
  • I know this, much is…
    Tony Hale
    5 stars
  • wmorr95
    Great show
    Amazing show!! Funny plus every once in a while a new piece of Nicole’s dating/life lore drops and it leaves you shooketh
  • Gsfudeeuungddtg
    Feeling Disappointed Lately
    I’m a huge fan of Nicole and all her work but lately this podcast has been frustrating to listen to. The interviews aren’t as interesting because so much time is spent only on Nicole’s interpersonal life. I wish there were more focus on love and dating in general and less about how Nicole wants a relationship. I don’t mind that it’s in the podcast but I’ve had to give up on episodes lately because I feel like the same topics are rehashed over and over again.
  • autshi
    Love the podcast, reviewer Lunamoonbeam12 is out of line
    What’s up with Lunamoonbeam12’s review? Are they seriously giving the podcast one star because Nicole isn’t using her platform to talk about political and social justice issues? Seriously?? I mean, do they realize this podcast is called “Why Won’t You Date Me” and what the subject matter is? It’s a freaking comedy podcast. Just because Nicole is a POC (I am, as well), doesn’t mean she needs to be discussing these things and getting a one star review because of it. That reviewer needs a major reality check, because this isn’t the platform or podcast for that. The entitlement of people…
  • Lunamoonbeam12
    Sad
    Have listened to Nicole for years. As POC, I really wish you’d use your voice and platform for the other POC around the world who need their voices lifted and heard. Congo, Palestine, Sudan. The many other genocides. Please Nicole.
  • vanessa_nothudgens
    10/10
    I absolutely LOVE Nicole and could listen to her for hours. She’s truly a breath of fresh air.
  • abk186
    please be my friend Nicole
    Sometimes I’ll think to myself, wow, I am really missing one of my friends but for some reason I don’t remember which friend. Then I realize I haven’t listened to Nicole’s podcast in a while. Please be my friend Nicole!
  • Lucille#3
    National treasure
    Nicole is the best!
  • frainch toast
    Always lifts me up 😉
    Nicole, you da best.
  • kwak_addict
    What a treat, what a dream!
    Real quick, we have to take break! Just kidding! I’ve now listened to every single episode. From oldest to newest, like a real one. Finally caught up & I would say that it’s Verrry Funny. Nicole and I have learned so much and met so many folks through this glorious journey. I intend to keep listening henceforth.
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